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Menopause, vaginal dryness and painful sex: every option, with the pros and cons

This group of symptoms has a medical name, GSM. Unlike hot flushes, it does not go away on its own and only increases, but it can be treated at every level. This article lays out every option so you can compare.

What happens when hormones fall?

Falling oestrogen makes the vaginal lining thinner and less elastic, with less blood supply, a change in acidity, and less natural lubrication. The result is dryness, burning, itching, pain during sex, bleeding after sex, frequent or stinging urination, and recurrent urinary tract infections. Symptoms can begin before periods stop, and also in women who are breastfeeding or taking certain medications.

Level 1: no hormones

A vaginal moisturiser used regularly, 2–3 times a week, restores moisture over the longer term. This is different from a lubricant, which is used only during sex. Choose one without fragrance and with a pH close to the vagina's own. Water-based or silicone-based lubricants can be used alongside it. Regular sex or stimulation helps maintain blood flow.

Level 2: local hormones

Low-dose oestrogen as a cream, vaginal tablet or ring acts locally, with very little absorbed into the bloodstream. It works very well for dryness and pain within 4–12 weeks and reduces recurrent urinary tract infections. It is safe for most women, including many who have had breast cancer, although they should consult their treating doctor first.

Level 3: laser or RF

An option for women who cannot use hormones, do not want to, or find them not enough. It stimulates the lining to become thicker and moister without medication. 2–3 sessions, with results lasting a little over a year. If the lining is very thin, I may ask you to prepare with a local hormone cream first so the treatment is more comfortable.

Level 4: systemic hormone replacement

When there are other menopausal symptoms as well, such as hot flushes, poor sleep, mood swings or thinning bones, systemic hormone therapy helps all of them, including the vagina. The risk has to be assessed individually. Started within the first 10 years after the last period, the benefits outweigh the risks for most women, with regular follow-up.

How do you choose?

If youStart with
Have mild symptoms and prefer no medicationMoisturiser + lubricant
Have clear dryness and pain, no other symptomsLocal hormones
Cannot or do not want to use hormonesLaser/RF + moisturiser
Also have hot flushes or poor sleepA discussion about systemic hormone replacement
Bleed after sexA pelvic exam before anything else

What needs checking first?

Any unusual bleeding after menopause needs its cause found before treatment starts. This includes a pelvic exam, up-to-date cervical screening, and a family history of breast cancer or blood clots. I do all of this at your first visit.

Frequently Asked Questions

Does a hormone cream raise the risk of cancer?

Low-dose local treatment is absorbed very little. Current evidence does not show an increased risk of breast or endometrial cancer with normal use. This differs from systemic hormones, which need an individual assessment.

I am 45 and still have periods, but I am already dry. Is that normal?

It is common in the years before menopause, when hormones start to fluctuate. It is treated in the same way, and there is no need to wait until periods stop.

Does PRP help?

Small studies have found it helps moisture and sensation. It can be used alongside laser, but the evidence is weaker than for local hormones. I will tell you plainly where the evidence stands.

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